Making Time For Yourself As A Divine Mother
Like any other mamma goddess I too am learning all over again how to make good use of and be creative with my time with now having two little munchkins in our journey. However, mother or not learning how to create time for ourselves takes a conscious effort and a bit of discipline. 😉
It’s definitely not always easy and there are many moments, hours, sometimes days where I feel like I am losing parts of myself. However, with time I am learning to find gratitude in the moments of challenge as well as the moments of support and see that they both serve me to where I am being guided. I am constantly having to remind myself that the moments of struggle are short lived and are usually the triggers that motivate me to do my inner work, bringing me back to a place of balance where I am better able to honour myself, worth and time.
Whether I am having a day where I feel rejuvenated and grounded or a day when I feel tired and off centred, my intention is to utilize the space I do have in ways that will help raise my vibration so that I feel inspired to show up as a loving self, partner and mother. If we are able to identify and assess how we are feeling in the moment then we can better choose the appropriate action step that will help re-ground and centre ourselves. Through trial and error we grow an awareness and learn the action steps that make us feel depleted versus the ones that make us feel fulfilled.
WHEN YOU ARE ABLE TO FIND SPACE HERE ARE SOME INSPIRING WAYS TO UTILIZE YOUR TIME TO HELP RAISE YOUR VIBE…
DROP EXPECTATIONS AND GET BACK TO BASICS
On days when you are feeling challenged it can feel especially difficult to achieve what we “want” to. Drop those expectations and find something simple that will make you feel loved and purposeful. We always want to build to success. Make your goals attainable so you feel confident and proud at the end of the day. Take a shower, shave, blow dry your hair, eat a healthy snack, etc. Remember to celebrate these small victories along the way. You are worthy.
CREATE A SPOT TO CALL YOUR OWN
Every individual is worthy of love and is therefore worthy of having a space to call their “own”. It can be a cushion on the floor in a corner of any room in the house. A place where you can go to reflect, re-group, meditate, release, feel gratitude, feel grief, whatever feels right to you in the moment. Decorate the area with items that make you feel loved and inspired.
SCHEDULE YOUR ME TIME
Sometimes we have a hard time committing to ourselves unless we have “scheduled in” time for ourselves. Get your partner on board and put your time on the calendar (even if it’s for 10 minutes). As your confident grows schedule in some sort of a treatment once a month to help foster the alignment of your mind, body and soul. Some treatments could include: osteopathy, reiki, recconective healing, body talk, massage, etc.
MEDITATION AND/OR YOGA
Even if it’s for 5 minutes… making space to sit in stillness and/or stretch your body does a mind, body and soul wonders. You don’t even necessarily need to know what you are doing. The fact that you are making the conscious time for yourself will make you feel supported.
HONOUR YOUR FEELINGS
Using your feelings to help you navigate your journey and where you are being guided strengthens our awareness and expands our consciousness. There are many moments where our girls see me bawling my eyes out and hear me describing how I am feeling. This not only models to our children that it is safe to feel what they feel but it also helps them build their schema of feelings so they can better articulate their feelings as they ride their own waves. Not to mention it allows us to better support them as their guides when they can articulate their feelings so effectively. Further, by allowing ourselves to feel the depth of our feelings we are cleansing our consciousness of blocks that otherwise layer when we don’t give ourselves permission to feel everything.
BE YOUR BEST FRIEND
There isn’t anyone else on the planet who can love you like you can. Find moments to send yourself loving messages and pay attention to how you speak to yourself when moments are hard. When you feel like you are on top of the world, go a step further and tell yourself how proud you are of yourself. When the challenges arise, show yourself self-compassion and speak to yourself as if you were talking to your best friend. When we are triggered by our challenges these are just subconscious stories that have not been released. Give yourself kudos for your perseverance and remind yourself that these challenges are helping you grow.
CELEBRATE YOUR INNER CHILD AND GODDESS
There is nothing freer than tapping into this side of ourselves. Embrace play, create something new, sing, dance, read an audible book, have a bath, light a candle, sage the house, put on the diffuser with your favourite essential oil, and/or express your sensuality to help raise your vibration and thrive.
ACCEPT WHERE YOU ARE… ENJOY!
It’s so easy to find ourselves comparing ourselves to others when we are struggling and even when we are thriving. Trust that you are in the right moment at the right time and enjoy the experiences that surround you. Breathe into these moments and bring your senses to life. What do you see, smell, hear, feel, taste in this segment of time?
KNOW YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE
I am a firm believer in making time to do your inner work as many times things that trigger us are just blocks in our subconscious from when we were younger. When we free ourselves and balance these experiences with gratitude we are better able to flow with life. We learn to hear what our heart wants and then put action steps towards making them our reality. Deciding to sign on with my coach not only helps me stay focussed on my life goals but it also supports me when I veer off track. My own life transformations inspired me to want to coach others to learn how to live from their hearts as well. Through my coaching sessions and packages I am so grateful to see my clients thrive at their inner and outer game, living a life they desire.
If the kiddos are around and you can’t find alone time…
BE CREATIVE
Let’s be honest, there are many days where our kiddies are demanding every ounce of our time. During these moments, get your kids involved and show them what taking care of yourself truly looks like. It’s not always ideal but it will help replenish you until you are able to have that alone time.
SINK INTO JOYFUL MOMENTS
When we are able to be present and sink into the joy of our children we create more joy and gratitude in our hearts! Sometimes our minds can be busy racing that we often forget to slow down and take the moments to enjoy the process of life. When in doubt find opportunities to rest and relax into the small joys around you.
GET INTO NATURE
Walk barefoot in the grass, hug a tree or surround yourself with trees and/or water. Nature always does a body good!
TAKE DEEP BREATHS
During transitions and/or when you need to create space show your kiddos the importance of taking deep breaths and even counting to ten. This gives them time to process and you time to recenter.